Why You Are Only as Good as You Think You Are
Recently I was speaking to a group of friends that have no problems with the opposite sex and asked where they got their confidence the go after the most beautiful women. What one friend revealed was a very simple idea that most men fail to realize, “you are only as good as you think you are”. Confidence really is king but how do you go about gaining some confidence and improving your self esteem especially if you seem down on your luck or have flunked out more times than you care to recall?
The key is to forget the past completely. That might sound easier said than down but in reality the past only exists as a mental phantom that is plaguing you and taunting you time after time. Stop to remember that the only moment you can change is right now and only now, not tomorrow or yesterday.
You don’t have to be the best looking guy, the richest guy or even in unbelievable shape. Next time you are out and about take a look around you and chances are that it wont take you too long to see some average looking guys with some great looking women? Sure you will say “wow, he must have money” or this or that but the truth is a lot simpler than you may think.
Women are attracted to confidence, it is like a pheromone that they can’t avoid, it is their kryptonite, their Achilles heel. Don’t confuse confidence with arrogance, don’t walk around like you are a big shot.
The key is to smile, be friendly and yourself. Don’t put up a fake front, that wont last long and will be quickly exposed. Too many guys will be intimated and it quickly shows, there really is nothing to worry about, what do you have to lose apart for more excuses and lies that you tell yourself as to why you are not good enough.
Don’t do your own head in and be your own worst enemy. If you tell yourself you are not good enough or all the other excuses guys will say to themselves in order to avoid taking action then that is where you will remain, in constant inner struggle.
Don’t rank yourself or compare yourself to other guys whether it is to do with what you do for a living, how much money you make, the shape you are in or how good or bad looking you think you are. This is allowing your ego to compare yourself to others and this is where most guys go wrong. Play in this false world and you will quickly throw yourself deeper in the hole.
Next time you feel like approaching a woman don’t let the excuses creep in, don’t let your own judgment of yourself destroy you time after time. NOTHING will happen if you fail, there is no such thing as failing, only experience. Don’t take to heart before anything has happened, don’t base your self worth on false ideas or past experiences that only exist because you give them life by thinking about them, they only exist in your own mind.
Don’t ever forget this line, “you are only as good as you think you are”. When you truly understand what that statement means and how it applies to your life the closer you will be to eliminating fear, anxiety and gaining confidence with women.